I always make it a point to involve the BF in most decisions, even seemingly little ones, if it involves the both of us. That’s what you do in a partnership, right?
Recently, together, we decided our Xmas holiday MS visitation schedule. We arrive there Xmas Eve Day and depart laaaate Christmas night, so we can come home and enjoy an entire weekend before going back to work.
So, he gets on the horn with his mom and she expresses a tiny disappointment with our timing, so he makes adjustments to the schedule without me. I was informed of it later and I guess he assumed that I would be fine with it? No no no no no!
He told me that he thought it rude that we were going to be so ‘touch & go’ and that if I wanted to break the ‘bad news’ to his mom, go ahead. I told him that he surely did not think this until he talked with his mother, that we were content with our agreement. Too, I told him that he was mean for making me be the bearer of bad news. I also told him that I wasn’t trying to be rude to his mom, but that I value my time and would like to enjoy *SOME* quiet time this holiday season AND that I thought he wanted the same. Also, we were unable to find a cat sitter, so we had obligations to return home sooner than later.
We’re back to our intended schedule, but only after I had to raise hell, which is not fair in itself.
Being half of a duo = hardest thing ever
December 22, 2009 at 2:33 pm |
Maybe dudes just don’t like dealing with their mothers? I’m always the one who has to talk to his mom, too. When his mom asks about our plans with regards to holidays he just hands the phone to me! What’s that all about?